Today is 1st June. To many, is it just the start of winter in the southern hemisphere, but to me and MR K, it signaled a start of a beautiful journey together. Exactly seven years ago today, we officially became a couple (pak toh/go steady lah). Many have asked us how we met and started going out. I have never really told the story in full, until now.
Well, it all started from a summer bbq…
We both came to Auckland to study at the same university. As usual, Malaysian students normally hang with the same crowd, so we were introduced by a mutual friend during an evening bbq. My first impression of MR K? Quiet, soft-spoken and a total kayu (wooden). After the courteous greetings, we hardly talked to each other (well, he hardly talked). As we are both good friends to our friend V, we often hang together with the same gang. So eventually I started to notice him more and felt sparks loosely flying around. Heh! He on the other end, being the mr nice, timid, reserved type, didn’t feel a thing. Though that being said, our friendship grew stronger, and he started to open up to me and tell me things deep in his heart that had never told to anyone else before. Of course, being the kayu(wooden) that he was, he didn’t realise the sparks, and needed to be reminded by our mutual friend V, who has been in-the-know all these while. So on the faithful early hours of 1st June 2000, he asked me to be his girlfriend when we were chatting via icq (hey, that was the in thing back then ok!). And the rest, like they said, is history.
Some of my friends were quite surprised for my choice of boyfriend back then as we are the total opposite. He is quiet, reserved, nerdy and kayu(wooden). On the other end, I am noisy, passionate, talkative and warm. You can see we are at the total opposite ends. Right down to our educational backgrounds and families. He is a banana from a pure English speaking family who hardly speak Cantonese, let alone Mandarin; I am from a pure Chinese speaking family who speak mostly Mandarin. God certainly likes to play match-making in the strangest ways.
I remembered my dad’s words just before I left for New Zealand, ‘don’t get a boyfriend who is of different descent, I won’t approve.’ So instead, I found a banana who is somewhere in between. I am sure my father’s heart died a little when he knew this (just joking lah, my father likes him very much). So imagine the scene, me speaking to him with my broken English and Cantonese, and him trying to figure out Mandarin. Luckily. years passed and my English and Cantonese improved a great deal since then(thank you MR TV!); him on the other end, is still trying to figure out Mandarin. Though the once kayu and geeky guys actually turned out to be a warm and fun-loving man. So, underneath the icy exterior, there is a warm mussy heart. Heh!
So there, my love story, hopefully it is not too lovey-dovey to read. ![]()
*banana = yellow on the outside, white in the inside. Loosely describing Chinese who doesn’t speak Chinese.











June 1st, 2007 at 10:41 pm
What a lovely story. Makes me want to feel young again! Sigh…..
So, is your husband from Singapore, Malaysia….?? This old aunty very kei poh now.
Your English is great….so I can’t believe you couldn’t converse well with him when you first met him.
Ah love…..so sweet! May your love for each other grow stronger and stronger year after year.
June 2nd, 2007 at 5:43 am
cc,
Your English is confirmed EXCELLENT! haha!
Wah, can ask Mr K teach me some skill? I got lots of activities but yet to find a suitable one leh.
June 2nd, 2007 at 10:40 am
touching lar…. now.. WHERE IS THE VIDEO !
June 2nd, 2007 at 1:29 pm
opposite wan owes be the hapi couple…
*now just can bisit ur website coz few days ago cant c anything but just white colour*
June 2nd, 2007 at 3:19 pm
Wow, very romantic
Jamy from sunshine florida.
June 2nd, 2007 at 3:42 pm
wow…that’s a very nice story. i’m happy for you both!
-Dylan
June 2nd, 2007 at 6:55 pm
Dr ve Thru
7 years in English speaking did the trick. Haha. Mr K is from KL.
Kok
Aiyo, not excellent la, just better than before. Haha. Give it some time, your English will improve.
freethinker
The video will be in the next post. Stay tune!
ah nel
Yea, I don’t know what the hell is going on, having some problem with explorer. No problem with firefox here. And because I’m using mac, It doesn’t really support explorer, so i can’t really tell.
kayatan
Thank you!
d y l a n t o u c h
Thank you! We are happy too.
June 3rd, 2007 at 4:04 am
=D
My mum talks to my boyfriend with her broken hokkien and he replies with his broken Mandarin.
It’s funny to see chicken and duck talking.
June 3rd, 2007 at 1:55 pm
Yes. I do agree that life is full of surprises. Two different people of very different background are often match together, with pleasant effect.
Wish you many happy years ahead.
June 3rd, 2007 at 4:19 pm
God has definitely made the right choice of turning you two into love birds. One “kayu” and one “drum”. Without either party’s existence there won’t be any noise right?
Sometimes it’s better to let love comes naturally than to force it. 7 years is a good figure, 8th (FATT)is even better for marriage. 9th (KAO KAO CHAN)is a good time for babies
So, Happy Belated Anniversary !!
June 3rd, 2007 at 7:04 pm
Nonnie
Yea, it’s very funny. Haha.
yenjai
Thank you!
Criz
You are so right. Haha
We are only married for one plus years. Haha. This is ‘pak toh’ anniversary. Thanks!
June 4th, 2007 at 12:33 pm
so sweet! Happy Aniversary!
June 4th, 2007 at 4:56 pm
It’s always nice to reminisce over those early courting days! Sometimes we still talk about those days & it somehow draws us closer!
June 5th, 2007 at 8:29 pm
hehe cute love story!
June 6th, 2007 at 4:21 pm
dmr
tankill tankill!
Dancing Queen
Yes it does! We walked down the memory land together every time we talk about it.
lasilasi
Thanks!