Friendship is an important part of my life. Being an only child, my life was never dull or lonely because of them. Someone once said to me:
Hold on to your friends whom you made during your school years. They would be the truest and most important friends in your life.
I couldn’t agree more, as I met most of my good friends during the years when I was still a student. Amongst them, my 2 best friends whom I met when I was 13. I thank them for being there for me while I was going through those difficult years. For accepting me for who I was/am, for sharing my ups and downs, and for caring. I thank my lucky stars for having them in my life.
When I made the decision to come to NZ, I vowed to never let the distance come between me and my friends. Besides the 8000km between us, everything seems to be the same in the beginning. Letters exchange were frequent, and calls were made as often as possible. But years down the road, as we ended our days as a student and began another mile stone year of being a working adult, some of us grew apart. Letters became far apart, calls started to die down. And sad to say, friendships withered. But such is the cycle of life. Our friends come and go as we go onto different stages of life. I have to say I always give my best and all as a friend, but any relationship is a two-way road, we need communications from both ways in order to make it work. I just have to accept the fact that sometimes no matter how hard I try, there’re certain things I just have to let it be, I just have to let it go.
And I quote a chapter of Home Improvement:
Wilson: ‘Well sounds to me you’re having a hard time saying goodbye.’
Tim: ‘Why should I say goodbye? He’s been one of my best friends for 15 years.’
Wilson: ‘Well, has he, Tim? Or was he your best friend 15 years ago?’
Wilson: ‘You see Tim, I believe it was St. Paul who said: when i was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child. But when I became a man, I put away childish things.“
I pondered, over and over again.
For my friends who have stayed by my side all these years, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your love and care have been my greatest support, helped me through some difficult time at one point or another, and helped me grow into who I am today. Thanks for being there when I needed you, and constantly reminding me that I am loved. I feel blessed to have you all in my life.
p/s: I’ve thought about writing this post for some time now. I held it off mainly because of worrying the content might caused misunderstanding. But now I decided to go ahead and let out my feelings. After all, this is what I truly feel. I hope no one takes offence, I’m just sharing my thoughts.
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